College Campus Sexual Assaults *Colegio Campus Assults Sexuales

RAINN  Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network

Help is available 24/7 through the National Sexual Assault Hotline: 800-656-HOPE and online.rainn.org, y en español: rainn.org/es.

Survivor Spotlight: College Campus Sexual Assault

(August 10, 2015) — Ti’Air was happy that someone she met a few years ago reached out to help her through the process of moving to a new university campus, where she was beginning to study for a Ph.D. in biomedical engineering. “He was very friendly and helpful. We talked every day,” she says. “But suddenly, he became extremely flirtatious and aggressive.” One night, he invited her to karaoke. He took her back to her home at the end of the night, and when they arrived at her apartment, he raped her.

Although Ti’Air reported her rape to her university and the police, the case did not move forward. She channeled her frustration with this experience into founding a student group on campus. “The reason I started Students Against Rape and Violence (SARA V) was due to the lack of resources I found on my campus to help me cope,” she says. Ti’Air hopes SARA V can be a vehicle of change by educating students about sexual assault and providing a safe space for peers to share their experiences.

Ti’Air says there were a number of challenges she faced after her sexual assault. She had trouble focusing at school, developed post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and faced harassment from friends of her assailant. Yet, Ti’Air now feels stronger as a result of these obstacles. “In retrospect, these experiences were awful, but they have made my skin thicker.”

Ti’Air now has some tips for dealing with symptoms of PTSD. “To combat nightmares, I’ve found that drinking chamomile tea at night before bed helps me stay asleep,” she says. “If I’m in public and having triggers, I calm myself down and give myself words of affirmation.”

In addition to improved resources for handling sexual assault, Ti’Air wants colleges to provide mandatory education for students on the subject. She likes the idea of interactive workshops that facilitate conversations about sexual violence and consent. “I want to encourage student interaction [to learn] what is okay and what is not okay,” she says.

Ti’Air found many strategies that helped her heal and recover, including going to counseling and spending time with family and friends. “I actually discovered the Lafayette Crisis Center through RAINN’s website, and drove over to attend one of their therapy sessions.”

She also emphasizes the importance of not keeping silent. “I find that telling my story is cathartic,” Ti’Air says. As a title holder in the Miss United States pageant system, Ti’Air is able to encourage other survivors to speak up. “By far, the most rewarding aspect is hearing others come forth with their stories,” she says. “Although I may never see justice myself, it feels great to know that my work may help others see justice.”

“I want every survivor to know that it is not your fault. You are not responsible or guilty for what has happened to you,” she says. “You are worthy of respect and love.”

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If you or someone you know has been affected by sexual violence, it’s not your fault. You are not alone. Help is available 24/7 through the National Sexual Assault Hotline: 800-656-HOPE and online.rainn.org, y en español: rainn.org/es.

16 thoughts on “College Campus Sexual Assaults *Colegio Campus Assults Sexuales

    1. Hi friend
      Our kids and young adults are facing a difficult time. School shootings, campus rapes, it has to stop. Not all rape ends well. Like running our country, schools, students, parents and government must work together to reach the bottom of issue. To much sugar coating going on.
      Thanks for taking the time to comment.
      Have a great day.
      I’ll email you with a couple of questions about adoption and blogging on the topic.
      Take care and talk to you soon.
      🙂
      M

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  1. Good post!

    One thing student victims of rape seem to forget/need to be educated about, is that if they are raped they MUST go to a HOSPITAL emergency room, where a rape kit will be collected and processed using proper evidentiary procedure. The ER doctor is MANDATED to report the rape, using a standard report form, which goes to usually the county prosecutor’s office. The woman will be interviewed by a woman law enforcement officer about the rape, and will ask the woman whether she wants to press charges. If she is under 18, the prosecutor’s office will file charges no matter what.

    Most cities have a Rape Crisis Hotline, and will provide a companion to go to the ER with the woman and be her support and advocate, so she doesn’t have to be alone and frightened.

    I have to say that I think it’s a big mistake to expect campus officials to be supportive of rape prevention services. Rape is rape, and women need to be educated about how to obtain support and services. I think the best thing is to post the number of the Rape Crisis Center on the inside of the door of all the bathroom stalls, with tear off sheets.

    In college you can’t really force people to go to rape prevention courses, and I strongly feel that those should start in middle school anyway.

    Rape Crisis and Prevention Services, which can be a student-led group, can do “tabling” on the quads, outside the Student Union, run consciousness raising groups, and have a student run advocacy group for victims that ensures that they go to the hospital and get treated. On-campus support groups are easy to organize, unfortunately.

    Where do I get my information? I volunteered at Student Gynecology as an undergrad, developed and ran the Human Sexuality program at my med school, then worked in the trenches for six years as an ER doc.

    On the flip side, as a street kid I was raped over a hundred times and never reported one of them.

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        1. Pizza sounds great, it’s my crumbling body that is knocking me down. I start IV Infusion treatment in next 2-3 months. Mounds of paperwork so all can cover ass. Without insurance approval we’re looking at approx. 100K a year. Lyme is in my brain and if all it’s done to me isn’t enough, I’m losing my eyesight. I’ve been pretty pissed off about that. My brain is only working at 50% cognition which comes with it’s own problem. I’ve been feeling pretty bad for a couple of week. Tomorrow is a new day. I enjoy genealogy, tonight I learned my peeps were part of the original settlers. One in family was a Sir and one knighted. That’s the cool stuff I like to research.
          I’m off to bed, another exhausting day.
          Take care, your buddy is so cute.
          🙂
          M

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        2. I don’t go out with a megaphone. I have written a Lyme Journal since starting my journey/diagnosed. It’s a bitch but I’m tougher that those spiral bastards. I really sound like a Minister, don’t I ?
          If all the back in forth with extra test, blood work constantly and cramming pills doesn’t stop soon I’ll run away from home. Everyday without the Infusion is a potential day off my life. I see a specialist Tuesday about eyes. It scary for anyone, I have two direct family members with serious eye problems. My granny was cross eyed and could only see out of one eye. Her mother kept having problems and had to get fake eye. I just want to focus on my charity and provide pastoral care for children and elderly. I thought God would jump and down, bring out the streamers and a cupcake. Haven’t received the invitation yet.
          It’s hell on marriage to, you want to strangle each other. I have the advantage since I’m sick, laying on couch all day. Strict orders from doctor to sleep as much as possible.
          Take care.
          🙂
          M

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        3. Can I get a “curbside consult?” I think I have Lyme, but haven’t been able to get a Dr to take me seriously ( mentally ill, you know.) I removed not one but two tiny deer ticks from behind my knee last April. A couple weeks later got a bull’s eye rash on my elbow, which I showed to my orthopedist (I have degenerative arthritis anyway). He waved it off. Since then fatigue like I have never known, generalized joint and muscle pain, spasms, brain fog above and beyond the usual med fog…? What do you think? How did you get tested/diagnosed?

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        4. This is a topic I could talk for days without stopping to eat. The system is FuXX up. It comes down to money.
          You had the classic sign and if a doctor would have treated you then, you’re looking at maybe 2-4 weeks antibiotics. Here’s were the patients get treated like there crazy. A very typical response for a medical doctor. 30-40% of people don’t get rash. Lyme can also lay dormant for years until your immune system is compromised then it attacks like a vulture. Because the symptoms mimic every immunize system diseases and several debilitating illnesses.
          The test for Lyme, if your doctor does the test are incorrect up to 70% of time. There are also close to 30 strains and if you don’t have one, no testing for others.
          The best and probably less costly at this time is call IGenex, you can look the m up. They are the number one leader in blood testing and the Lyme community all knows there name. Keep in mind this quickest and less costly way. Have IGenex test your blood. Approx. $1000. However when you get results back in a month or so, there is no question. Go to ILADS site and you can get a complete education. You could have with the symptoms. If not, I guess you’re trying to skip school. Kids here that one. Is that curbside enough?
          🙂
          M

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        5. God has something great in store for you. The pain you’ve endured the past several months is heart breaking.
          I understand the cost of Lyme, it’s crazy. Keep close to surface the longer you go the worse you get. Lyme can also kill and does everyday. Next time you have internet connection hit YouTube for a eye opening Lyme education. This so called doesn’t exist disease is causing me to go blind. Don’t wait, girlfriend, you think life can suck now.
          🙂
          M

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